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The Dating Scene

Fee Writes

What happens when you have three girlfriends, a bottle or two of wine and a lockdown? Mayhem!

The three women in question all have husbands. Wait, let me amend that. Two of them have a man in their life, and one is single. So what should the single one do? Why go on the dating scene.

It’s lockdown in New Zealand and the message going out is to stay in your ‘bubble’. The three women decide that they’ll make a unique bubble once a week and get together for wine and chatter under the guise of giving the single lass company at least for a few hours.

The conversation soon turned to the single status of the third woman who, by the way, is the oldest and, if you haven’t guessed yet, was me.

Tinder was the first suggestion, quickly snubbed as being for the young folk and as it’s lockdown wouldn’t be able to meet up anyway! Next on the cards was online dating. So the heads got together and a profile, with image, was loaded up.

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I’ve been down this road before. You see it’s been many (like MANY) years since I’ve been in a relationship, so the dating sites have had a fair go to little or no success.

Being a bit of a picky bitch probably doesn’t help! Let alone the fact that I’m vegan. This has put off many a chap, but as my friends say, “their loss”. So this time round I agreed that the ‘vegan’ part, although not hidden, wasn’t to be a barrier.

Now we come to the present day and it’s way past lockdown – that was “so last year”, but with the girls telling me to ‘smile’ ‘wink’ and ‘message’ every male that was put in front of me (not that I did), it was quite the eye-opening experience.

The men came and went. They were all genuine people, but not one of them rocked my boat. Most were looking for a woman to look after them, which probably goes without saying for men my age. So where is the independent chap, the outgoing, generous, try anything type of guy who has some fashion sense and can hold a decent conversation? He has eluded me.

It’s funny, but I always thought it was women who only wanted to talk about themselves. How wrong am I? Perhaps it’s nerves on their part? Of all the men I met, only a couple found out I had three children and where they lived… let alone my grandchildren. And only one discovered that I do Improv comedy! And yet I heard all about their families and their interests. Maybe I should start up a school on ‘how to date for the older person’.

Needless to say – I’m still single, it’s now 2021, and I have deleted all profiles off the dating sites. Mr Right will come along; he’s just not quite ready to introduce himself yet.