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When Online Dates Don’t Match the Photo

When Online Dates Don’t Match the Photo

Another quick online dating story for you—strap in!

the effect of smiles

So, what’s the deal with people looking completely different from their profile photos? I’ve had this happen a few times now. We chat online, everything seems lovely and promising, and I start thinking, “Yes, this could be really cool.” Then I rock up to meet the guy in person… and nope. He looks absolutely nothing like his photos.

Let’s be real—you can’t pack on that much weight in a week. In the photos, he’s trim and fit. In person? Well overweight. That’s not a sudden change; that’s been happening over a period of time. (To be fair, I’ve had one where the weight had come off—so it goes both ways!)

The second time it happened, it’s fair to say it was another doozy. We’d chatted online for some time before finally having a date that suited us both. It all seemed good, and we agreed to meet at a café. I arrived and spotted someone on a bench looking a bit… lost. He was clearly waiting for someone, and as there was no one else around, I put two and two together—and my heart sank. He looked nothing like his picture. Honestly, I wouldn’t have recognised him at all if he weren’t clearly waiting for me.

Then he drops this: he’s been through cancer treatment and chemo. And look, I am sorry to hear that—of course I am—but put up a current photo! Also, just to be clear, I’m not looking to become a full-time nurse. That’s not what I signed up for.

online dating profile photos

All I want is someone who is fit and actually resembles the photos they post. That’s it. Please. Just a little honesty goes a long way.

p.s. It’s one of the reasons I’m no longer online (just in case you’re wondering.)

Rant over!

 

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Ask This Question

Ask This Question

What if you only had one year left? Have you ever thought about this?

 

I read this in an email I subscribe to 

 

“Treat this question like a journaling prompt, answer it uninterrupted in a quiet, screen-free space, and it just might change your life, as it has mine: ‘If I had just one year left to live in good health, what would I do and who would I be?”

 

Now, surprisingly, I’m not big on journaling. I will do it periodically when I need to pick something, meaning that I’ll make a list of pros and cons. Or, I might use it if I have a problem to solve. But I’m not one for free-flowing my thoughts. Which, I know, seems odd because I’m a writer. I prefer rambling a blog post instead!

 

Getting back to the task at hand. 

 

I took the time and did journal. I found a suitable notepad, turned on the ‘nothing’ music – you know the type, the mediation music of peaceful lake, sunrise, autumn forest or mystic temple. I’m not into dolphin or whale music.

I took the time and did journal. I found a suitable notepad, turned on the ‘nothing’ music – you know the type, the mediation music of peaceful lake, sunrise, autumn forest or mystic temple. I’m not into dolphin or whale music. Then with pen in hand, began. 

 

  • I started with a sigh.
  • I don’t know what to write.
  • I have good health – I am pretty much who I like being, and I’m working on what I want to do. 
  • Other things such as travel to see my girls are out of my control.

 

So the journaling didn’t amount to much; instead, I thought I’d write a rambling blog post.

This question is an important one if you are in a state of soul agitation. And what I mean by that is when you’re not happy with the way your life is, you want changes. Then this question is definitely one to consider.

I generally put it another way 

 

“What do you want for you?” 

Taking everyone else out of the equation, what is it that you want for yourself? Once you’ve figured that out, and believe me, it’s an incredibly tough question for most people; then you can start adding people back into the mix. Not surprisingly, they will come in differently!

Now, it’s not to say that my life is perfect, far from it. I am in a continual state of learning and developing, but after all the years I’ve been on this planet, I am grateful for where I am and look forward to continuing the journey.

 

Just don’t ask me to keep a journal.

 

The email I subscribe to is free at you can subscribe here: Dense Discovery  It comes in once a week and is filled with all sorts of odd things that I find incredibly interesting. The author is Kia Brach, A young German now living in Australia.

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Harbourmaster Uses Council Boat To Free Orca – Stood Down

Harbourmaster Uses Council Boat To Free Orca – Stood Down

A Coromandel (N.Z.) Harbourmaster has been stood down because he used a Council boat to go and free an Orca.

A breeding female orca was trapped in a cray pot line for 16 hours – Yup 16 HOURS!!!! and the DOC (Department of Conservation) peeps were “too busy” to go and free her. So, in the end, the Harbourmaster along with a volunteer who had training in Dolphin and Whale rescue went out to her aid.

She was being held up by other members of her pod – if that’s not distress I don’t know what is!

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They did get her free and she swam away.

But now the Waikato Regional Council is

“checking whether any regulations were breached or operational procedures not followed during the rescue”

and the Harbourmaster has been stood down.

This is P.C. gone afoul – as usual. Who gives a toss if regulations have been breached! The Harbourmaster knew what he was doing, didn’t put anyone at risk and saved the Orca. He should be commended not reprimanded!

I’ll get off my soapbox now.

 

 

 

 

 




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Leaving Lily

Leaving Lily

Time to move on. Time to say goodbye to Lily for now.

It’s been a wonderful stay with Lily, although I can’t say I’ll miss the white fur. Lesson learned here – don’t wear black! I’ll be heading off at the end of this week and, guess what?, I’m going to Sydney for the weekend! Yeeha!!!! I get to hang out with my youngest, beautiful daughter.

Doing the “Mother of the Bride” bit as she is getting married next March.

Soooo excited. Mind you – what a week getting myself sorted.

You see, I’ve been house-sitting for about four months straight (and not finished yet), and we’ve changed seasons, so lots of cleaning out of the suitcase and swapping over the winter/summer clothes. Mind you, it’s still not tropical, but we can all live in hope!

So next time I write, I’ll be in Papamoa, looking after Quinn the cat and hanging out for about two and half weeks. Don’t worry, you’ll be filled in on the Sydney trip – memo to self: take photos!

 

 

 

 

 




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Quick Post – What Do Vegans Eat

Quick Post – What Do Vegans Eat

A question I get asked quite a lot … “What do Vegans eat?

So here’s the answer.

FOOD!

Check out this awesome array – and, I might add, the chocolate cake was to die for!!!

mains
MAINS

desserts
DESSERT

 

 

 

 

 




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